Women are from Venus - Men are from Mars

I’ll paste here a segment of a letter I wrote to an NPR friend, as a way to show my particular view of this phenomenon:

“…I love to sit back and watch you guys party it up here, and your ruff and tumble way especially. I know that my attitude and input can be like dousing the coals in that locomotive as it barrels along, and so I happily hang back. I love that you come out and say I'm too sweet to get stuck in, because you do everything with such great heart ... Lionheart? And I love that you and I are night and day that way. It's like you're the poster child for high testosterone and I'm that for estrogen.

I know you might not be able to stand (or sit still for) the methodical calm of my perspective here, but I want to talk to your science head a bit. Over the last 3 yrs. or so I've heard a couple of spots on NPR that look into what it's like for people to be both super saturated with estrogen and then with testosterone. One was about a woman who'd undergone a sex change to male, and the other was a story about a man, with

some kind of illness which left him completely without testosterone and instead high estrogen for a time. I'm thinkin'
it would be a mistake to go on here about the intricacies and beauty of what these people had to say about this and all that this reveals about the basic nature of being masculine and feminine. Lets just say that, it was much easier for the person who was born female to really enjoy that time spent in super-high estrogen mode than it was for the male. This very naturally masculine person really missed that drive, that passion, the muscle behind his churning motor, so much, that his description of looking at the world through the eyes of high estrogen was lifeless: "Everything was beautiful... that paper cup is beautiful, that dead tree, that weird interaction those people had is beautiful." But he didn't relish this calm and amazing viewpoint like the sex change person did, it was empty and dead-pan when he relayed this to the interviewer.

I get your drive, … and your fire, your power-packed play, and need to wrestle... it's beautiful.”

There’s so much to be looked at and said about the full spectrum of masculine and feminine… where they meet, where they don’t, and places of real androgyny. I’d heard something a while back about how the more united and respectful the relationship is between the men and women of a culture, the less likely they are to be a warring nation. I find this to be a very interesting and hopeful theory… maybe pointing to the light at the end of the tunnel.